Marriage, Motherhood & Ministry (The 3 M's)Marriage, Motherhood & Ministry (The 3 M's) Mom raising kids, Serving in ministry & Dealing w/ life issues! Tue, 15 Aug 2017 10:00:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 What are you Thinking? Getting Rid of Stinking Thinking!! Tue, 15 Aug 2017 10:00:48 +0000 This month will soon be coming to an end.

I decided  to examine myself and think about what has occurred this month and to be honest my first reaction was WOW!! How in the world did I accomplish all of this in such a short span of time?  Projects at work, the kids going back to school after vacation break and new year’s resolutions that I had prayerfully made and now it was time to Execute!!no_negative_thoughts_allowed



This is why I decided to focus more on Positive Thoughts because my thoughts (thinking) are what shapes my Mind & my Mind shapes my Emotions & my Emotions will shape my Reactions & Responses.   It is so Important to focus on Right Thinking & Get rid of the Stinking Thinking!!  That’s right!! The sort of thinking that will lead you into a ditch of Regret, Remorse & Resent.  I would like to share with you some tips that have helped me with Positive Thinking whereby, Stinking Thinking from your Mind!!


1- Start looking at the Glass half full instead of half empty when you attempt to solve a problem
2-Close your Ears to Negative talkers & walkers
3-Do not put Limits on your Dreams
4-Practice positive confessions daily

Phil. 4:8″Whatever is true, whatever is honorable & whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, if there is any excellence, if there is any worthy of praise dwell (think)on these things”. 


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10 Affirmations to Overcome Negative Thinking Tue, 08 Aug 2017 12:00:24 +0000 Tips-for-Overcoming-Negative-Self-Talk

So many of us walk around thinking of ourselves as defeated, a failure, unworthy and unlovable. Sometimes it is that way because of past hurts or abuse or because something we had hoped for just did not work out the way we had planned, or because of feeling less than others around us.


The problem is once you see yourself that way, you will start speaking of  that way and eventually it will lead you to a life of negativity. It becomes a generational cycle!


The Word of God says wonderful things about us. These very words give life and are the words we should choose to believe. For example, one of my favorite verses is 1 Peter 2:9. “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood…God’s special possession” (1 Peter 2:9). “Chosen people” means God chose you. Not the other way around. And He chose you for great and lovely things.

If you happen to be one that does not struggle with negative words or thoughts, that is fantastic. However, there are many who fight with these negative thoughts and therefore it comes out in our speech.

Below is a list of affirmations found in the Bible that will help you in your daily lives.

  • “I am rooted and established in Love” [Ephesians 3:17]
  • “My soul will prosper” [3 John 2]
  • “I will prosper” [Jeremiah 29:11]
  • “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” [Psalm 139:14]
  • “I will bear much fruit” [John 15:5]
  • “I am the head and not the tail” [Deuteronomy 28:13a]
  • “I am above and not beneath” [Deuteronomy 28:13b]
  • “I am a blessing” [Genesis 12: 3]
  • “I am blessed and highly favored” [Luke 1:28]
  • “I am royalty” [Isaiah 62:3]

It takes 21 days to form a habit. Over the next 21 days, let’s say and think what God says about us. Not what we say or think. Not what others say or think. Only what God says.





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FACING MY FEARS Wed, 02 Aug 2017 10:00:16 +0000  quote-face-fear


Courage is developed by embracing our greatest fear & not being deterred by them. You’ve heard the ole saying,  “Your Thoughts dictate your Actions”, or “You are What you Think” & don’t forget   “As a man Thinketh So is He”, Proverbs 23:7.

We all  have encountered a something in our lives where we were challenged in facing a fear that we really did not want to deal with.

Eleanor Roosevelt said:

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror; I can take the next thing that comes along . . . .” you must do the thing you think you cannot do.
That is how things began to change for me. I knew that in seeking my security and strength in the approval of others, I was not being true to myself.  Fear of not being liked was making it easy for me to be controlled by  people.  However, I found the only person that  I needed to be controlled by is Christ.

Recently, I was faced with making a life changing decision. The first thought they came to my mind was, What would others think? & or How would they react once the decision was made?

Immediately, I had to catch myself.  And remember my thoughts & my decisions are not based on what others think? or How they behave. But they are decided based on my beliefs and my values.
If I can offer a Word of Advice to One who may have  problems with making

Life Changing Decisions……….
1-Gather up all facts, information & history
2-Do your Homework
3-Don’t decide out of anger, frustration & or bitterness
4-Don’t worry about What others might Think or Say-(Everyone is entitled to their own personal opinion)


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How to Turn Disappointment into Triumph Tue, 18 Jul 2017 14:30:39 +0000 Disappointment is a part of life. Change is stressful and when disappointment strikes whether in relationships, work or health, the stress increases. Because life is all about change-the part of yourself that wants everything to remain the same isn’t realistic.


Here are 7 proven steps to Turning Disappointment into Triumph: 

1-Take Care of Yourself

Take walks and go out into nature. Seek the company of positive friends. Being good to yourself is important.

2-Define Success on your Terms

This is not a competition. Many people have their own definition of success. You decide and stick to it.

3-Find the Value in Failure

Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal it is the courage to continue that counts” .

4-Focus on the process-not the end result

It is easier to be mindful when you focus on action steps. This doesn’t mean you stop setting goals and measuring your progress toward them. Let each step find your sense of accomplishment. 

5-Know that it is not about you

Sometimes there are things beyond our control that have nothing to do with us what we did or didn’t do.

6-Be Honest and Learn from your Mistakes

Sometimes we are in denial about our past mistakes. There is always a lesson to be learned and then move on.

7-Find Opportunities in Adversity

When we think differently, we might not get what we want but we are more open to go after what we need.

Today, I challenge you to use your setbacks as a set-up to push you forward. Let go of how you think life should happen and focus on the Disappointment as an Opportunity to propel you to the next level in life!


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How to Change your Thinking & Win at Life Wed, 07 Jun 2017 16:06:14 +0000 Winning is more about how we choose to think versus the circumstances we face!

Here are four characteristics that can help you develop and maintain a winning mindset.



  1. Define your Win– If you don’t define it, you will keep yourself subjected to confusion about your success and your failures. Find out what’s important for you in your personal life, career and health. For an hour of two, set aside your ego, and also your guilt, and think about what a win would look like to you.
  2. Set goals –Start by setting goals in the three areas of life: work, relationships, and health.
  3. Find inspiration and motivation– Setting goals isn’t enough. The next step helps you to find a way to convince your brain to stick to that goal and get inspired about how to move ahead. The best way to find motivation is through books. Go find 2-3 books that can keep your inspired and stay persistent; read them again and again. A few books that worked for me were: 1. The Battlefield of the Mind 2. Rich Dad Poor Dad 3. The Bible
  4. Create habits –Learn to work with an excellent spirit. Challenge yourself. Make it a routine to commit yourself to and demand exceptional performance from yourself.


Learn to find WIN with the smallest bits of work that help you reach your goal. Then stay committed and strive to live them daily.

I found that successful people with WINNING ATTITUDES; they don’t really search for success, but instead they set habitual routines into their lives, consciously or unconsciously, and seek out the best way forward.



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THE POWER OF PRAYER Tue, 16 May 2017 13:00:17 +0000 If someone were to ask me what is the common denominator of Marriage, Motherhood & Ministry, I would honestly have to say, Prayer!

There is Power in Prayer! Theologians have written about it, our leaders have spoken about it and recently scientist and medical experts are finding that Prayer Works!


The Power of Prayer Book


We must constantly pray for our Marriages, Ministries & Our Children!

Prayer is communication with God.  It is talking and then listening to what he has to say in return.  I found it is easy to keep talking to someone about your problems, your dilemmas and mistakes.  But the Art of Prayer is in the Listening.  Can we Listen to God once we have spoken and made our Request? We give him a detail list of what’s not working, how we are feeling & what needs to be fixed in our lives.

Have you Mastered the Art of Listening? or Are you Monopolizing the Conversation?

I know this might seem harsh.  Well, it’s because I have been in that place where my prayers were All About Me! I call it the What About Me Season! Does Anybody Care how I feel? Is Anyone Listening?

Through Prayer, I received a short but sweet answer that went something like this.  YES, I MOST CERTAINLY DO!



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The Power of Motherhood Tue, 09 May 2017 19:00:43 +0000 Children are a blessing from the Lord (Ps. 127:3-5). Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. WE are called upon to unselfishly meet the needs of our families. I remember when mom would stay awake at night when I was sick, spending her time and money on myself, siblings and extended family, preparing meals putting others before herself.

Never complaining but knowing there were times when she was exhausted –working all day and coming home to four children and a husband.  Mom was a true example of servanthood and humility. And it was her humility that lead Mom  to her eternal reward in heaven.

Motherhood is a willingness to stoop down and get your hands dirty, any time of the day and or hour. Dying to your own desires and pouring your life into someone else becoming like Christ and creating a godly legacy that will carry on for generations to come.

In giving us children, God places us in a position of both leadership and service. He calls us to give up our lives for someone else’s sake–to abandon our own desires and put our child’s interests first. Yet, according to His perfect design, it is through this selflessness that we can become truly fulfilled.

Thank you Mothers for your unselfish love & generous spirit to family, community & children everywhere. I am so thankful that God made mothers!

Can you do me a favor, please share this with another deserving Mom!!

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How to have Quiet Time with God Wed, 03 May 2017 15:37:13 +0000  


Have you ever attempted to have quiet time then the phone rings, someone knocks at the door or the dog barks? Maybe you tried to pray and you were at a loss for words.

Quiet time with God builds your relationship with Him and allows you to hear His voice more clearly. When you receive a regular dose of His instruction and direction, the challenges before you don’t seem so big anymore and you feel more certain about how to handle them.

1Find a Place for Your Quiet Time

“…go into your room, close the door and pray….” –Matthew 6:6, NIV

Set aside a place and time where you will have privacy, quiet and no interruptions. Depending on what phase of life you’re in, you may need to ask the Lord to make a way where there seems to be no way.

2-Offer Praise and Thanksgiving During Your Quiet Time

“Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise.” –Psalm 100:4, KJV


Thanksgiving and praise is a wonderful way to begin your prayers. It invites God to come and be a part of your time (Psalm 22:3). You’re asking that His presence and glory fill your life and your situation. As you praise God and speak of His marvelous works, you are reminded of all that God has done, and your faith in God and His plan for you increases.


3-Study His Word During Your Quiet Time

“…meditate on it day and night…be careful to do…all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and…have good success.” (Joshua 1:8, ESV)


The Bible is God’s inspired Word, but more than that, it is your personal how-to book for everyday living. Though most Christians know the importance of being in the Word, knowing where to start can sometimes be the greatest challenge.

Begin by reading the Word aloud during your quiet time. As you do, it will get down inside your spirit and will start to come out of your mouth throughout the day. What you really believe in your heart is what you speak all the time–and what you speak determines what happens in your life (Mark 11:23).


4Ask God to Help You Understand During Your Quiet Time

“Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.” (Psalm 119:18, NIV)

Finally, as you prepare to study the Scriptures, ask the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of your understanding so you can comprehend the deep things of God. Then, expect the Lord to do it; expect Him to meet you on the level of your need and reveal His Word to you.


5.   Be persistent until you are consistent

Strive for consistency rather than for length of time spent. Try to have a few minutes of quiet time every day rather than long devotional periods every other day.

Expect interruptions. Ask family members to respect your quiet time and turn off any electronic devices that may distract you. Satan tries to prevent you from spending time with God. Plan around interruptions rather than being frustrated by them.

Always remember, God delights in spending quality time with you, take advantage of it!!


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A Prayer for Yourself Mon, 24 Apr 2017 15:14:26 +0000 “Lord, I thank you for this day.  You are the Prince of Peace, the almighty healer and protector. I honor you and the ability

to cast ALL my cares upon You.   Please guide my heart and actions so, they may be a testimony to you. Guide my

decisions with your ultimate knowledge and remind me that your way is best.


Help me to rest from trying to figure out the solutions to problems in my life.  I submit to every circumstance that YOU

have ordained and I receive YOUR strength to go thru each one.  Further, I bind the works of the “enemy” and I decree

that no weapon formed against me will prosper.  By YOUR GRACE, I will exercise the courage to do whatever YOU tell me

to do in my situation. The JOY of the Lord is my strength.  Therefore, I will rejoice… RIGHT NOW! By faith, I decree that

VICTORY is mine!”


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The Power of Encouraging Words Tue, 18 Apr 2017 12:00:28 +0000 Have you ever had people come into your life that only offer words of discouragement?  Have you ever had someone tell you that it could not be done but you did it anyway? They seem to have to point out every flaw and make it a point to call out your shortcomings.

Encouragement can make a difference.  It can change your entire outlook on life.  A positive response can motivate you to drive forward and not give up.  

One kind word of encouragement, one smile and one hug at the right time can be life-changing. I am always amazed at how it takes so little to put a smile on someone’s face and raise their spirits.


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 I can remember those who have encouraged me along the way.  A parent, teacher, pastor or friend would always know the right words to say to motivate me.

Too often, we seem to think it’s our role to discourage others to not to pursue their dream. Many times it’s from our very own past experiences, broken promises and shattered dreams. 

We should be charged to speak into other’s lives and say, “I believe in you & follow your passion & purpose.

Here are three quick tips to stay Encourage!!
1-Be with those who bring out the best in you
2-Be an Encourager-Each day speak an uplifting word to someone else
3-Speak what is possible, rather than what seems impossible

Always remember, when you build up & encourage others it will always come back to you when you least expect it!!

P.S.-Please share this with someone who is in need of Encouragement!!

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