How to Turn Disappointment into Triumph

Disappointment is a part of life. Change is stressful and when disappointment strikes whether in relationships, work or health, the stress increases. Because life is all about change-the part of yourself that wants everything to remain the same isn’t realistic.


Here are 7 proven steps to Turning Disappointment into Triumph: 

1-Take Care of Yourself

Take walks and go out into nature. Seek the company of positive friends. Being good to yourself is important.

2-Define Success on your Terms

This is not a competition. Many people have their own definition of success. You decide and stick to it.

3-Find the Value in Failure

Winston Churchill once said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal it is the courage to continue that counts” .

4-Focus on the process-not the end result

It is easier to be mindful when you focus on action steps. This doesn’t mean you stop setting goals and measuring your progress toward them. Let each step find your sense of accomplishment. 

5-Know that it is not about you

Sometimes there are things beyond our control that have nothing to do with us what we did or didn’t do.

6-Be Honest and Learn from your Mistakes

Sometimes we are in denial about our past mistakes. There is always a lesson to be learned and then move on.

7-Find Opportunities in Adversity

When we think differently, we might not get what we want but we are more open to go after what we need.

Today, I challenge you to use your setbacks as a set-up to push you forward. Let go of how you think life should happen and focus on the Disappointment as an Opportunity to propel you to the next level in life!


P.S.-Please share with family & or friends!




How to Change your Thinking & Win at Life

Winning is more about how we choose to think versus the circumstances we face!

Here are four characteristics that can help you develop and maintain a winning mindset.



  1. Define your Win– If you don’t define it, you will keep yourself subjected to confusion about your success and your failures. Find out what’s important for you in your personal life, career and health. For an hour of two, set aside your ego, and also your guilt, and think about what a win would look like to you.
  2. Set goals –Start by setting goals in the three areas of life: work, relationships, and health.
  3. Find inspiration and motivation– Setting goals isn’t enough. The next step helps you to find a way to convince your brain to stick to that goal and get inspired about how to move ahead. The best way to find motivation is through books. Go find 2-3 books that can keep your inspired and stay persistent; read them again and again. A few books that worked for me were: 1. The Battlefield of the Mind 2. Rich Dad Poor Dad 3. The Bible
  4. Create habits –Learn to work with an excellent spirit. Challenge yourself. Make it a routine to commit yourself to and demand exceptional performance from yourself.


Learn to find WIN with the smallest bits of work that help you reach your goal. Then stay committed and strive to live them daily.

I found that successful people with WINNING ATTITUDES; they don’t really search for success, but instead they set habitual routines into their lives, consciously or unconsciously, and seek out the best way forward.




If someone were to ask me what is the common denominator of Marriage, Motherhood & Ministry, I would honestly have to say, Prayer!

There is Power in Prayer! Theologians have written about it, our leaders have spoken about it and recently scientist and medical experts are finding that Prayer Works!


The Power of Prayer Book


We must constantly pray for our Marriages, Ministries & Our Children!

Prayer is communication with God.  It is talking and then listening to what he has to say in return.  I found it is easy to keep talking to someone about your problems, your dilemmas and mistakes.  But the Art of Prayer is in the Listening.  Can we Listen to God once we have spoken and made our Request? We give him a detail list of what’s not working, how we are feeling & what needs to be fixed in our lives.

Have you Mastered the Art of Listening? or Are you Monopolizing the Conversation?

I know this might seem harsh.  Well, it’s because I have been in that place where my prayers were All About Me! I call it the What About Me Season! Does Anybody Care how I feel? Is Anyone Listening?

Through Prayer, I received a short but sweet answer that went something like this.  YES, I MOST CERTAINLY DO!



P.S. -To purchase your copy of my new book-The Power of Prayer, please visit! & Don’t forget please share this with a friend!!



The Power of Motherhood

Children are a blessing from the Lord (Ps. 127:3-5). Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. WE are called upon to unselfishly meet the needs of our families. I remember when mom would stay awake at night when I was sick, spending her time and money on myself, siblings and extended family, preparing meals putting others before herself.

Never complaining but knowing there were times when she was exhausted –working all day and coming home to four children and a husband.  Mom was a true example of servanthood and humility. And it was her humility that lead Mom  to her eternal reward in heaven.

Motherhood is a willingness to stoop down and get your hands dirty, any time of the day and or hour. Dying to your own desires and pouring your life into someone else becoming like Christ and creating a godly legacy that will carry on for generations to come.

In giving us children, God places us in a position of both leadership and service. He calls us to give up our lives for someone else’s sake–to abandon our own desires and put our child’s interests first. Yet, according to His perfect design, it is through this selflessness that we can become truly fulfilled.

Thank you Mothers for your unselfish love & generous spirit to family, community & children everywhere. I am so thankful that God made mothers!

Can you do me a favor, please share this with another deserving Mom!!

How to have Quiet Time with God



Have you ever attempted to have quiet time then the phone rings, someone knocks at the door or the dog barks? Maybe you tried to pray and you were at a loss for words.

Quiet time with God builds your relationship with Him and allows you to hear His voice more clearly. When you receive a regular dose of His instruction and direction, the challenges before you don’t seem so big anymore and you feel more certain about how to handle them.

1Find a Place for Your Quiet Time

“…go into your room, close the door and pray….” –Matthew 6:6, NIV

Set aside a place and time where you will have privacy, quiet and no interruptions. Depending on what phase of life you’re in, you may need to ask the Lord to make a way where there seems to be no way.

2-Offer Praise and Thanksgiving During Your Quiet Time

“Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise.” –Psalm 100:4, KJV


Thanksgiving and praise is a wonderful way to begin your prayers. It invites God to come and be a part of your time (Psalm 22:3). You’re asking that His presence and glory fill your life and your situation. As you praise God and speak of His marvelous works, you are reminded of all that God has done, and your faith in God and His plan for you increases.


3-Study His Word During Your Quiet Time

“…meditate on it day and night…be careful to do…all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and…have good success.” (Joshua 1:8, ESV)


The Bible is God’s inspired Word, but more than that, it is your personal how-to book for everyday living. Though most Christians know the importance of being in the Word, knowing where to start can sometimes be the greatest challenge.

Begin by reading the Word aloud during your quiet time. As you do, it will get down inside your spirit and will start to come out of your mouth throughout the day. What you really believe in your heart is what you speak all the time–and what you speak determines what happens in your life (Mark 11:23).


4Ask God to Help You Understand During Your Quiet Time

“Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.” (Psalm 119:18, NIV)

Finally, as you prepare to study the Scriptures, ask the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of your understanding so you can comprehend the deep things of God. Then, expect the Lord to do it; expect Him to meet you on the level of your need and reveal His Word to you.


5.   Be persistent until you are consistent

Strive for consistency rather than for length of time spent. Try to have a few minutes of quiet time every day rather than long devotional periods every other day.

Expect interruptions. Ask family members to respect your quiet time and turn off any electronic devices that may distract you. Satan tries to prevent you from spending time with God. Plan around interruptions rather than being frustrated by them.

Always remember, God delights in spending quality time with you, take advantage of it!!